Self care relies on these major components: Physical, Psychological, Emotional, Spiritual, Personal and Professional.
Take a look at this wheel I found at Olga Phoenix.
Of course, we always hear that we should eat health, exercise, drink our water and what my Grandma use to tell me, “Mind Your Business!”. To be honest, when I don’t do these things, I feel like crap…and it’s often I feel like this and with my age increasing. I need to call it quits and focus on Self-Care.
The topic of the month is personal for me; therefore, I don’t expect you to do everything that I’m doing. Tweak it to your own standards and live…be true to yourself. The first thing is that we must evaluate:
- Who Are You?
- What Do You Want?
- How Do You Want To Be In Your Life?
This should be your motivation and when you get stuck or feel like giving up, go back to these three questions and push forward.
Create a Positive Environment
At work and at home, it should be positive. There are times that my work environment is so negative that I must exit and do some community work or if I can’t at the moment, I listen to music and focus on the bigger picture. There are many times where my home environment is not positive. Things like clutter and trash annoys me. Normally, I would lash out at the culprits (my husband and kids), but recently, I’ve began cleaning myself and setting standards with the goal being for them to live up to these standards (happy wife, happy mom, happy home).
Affirmations and Gratitude
This comes in many forms. I’ve recently got into the habit of body-shamming. Not others, but myself. From being morbidly obese to now just being overweight…I allowed those standards to define who I am. I use to get mad that I couldn’t wear a size four anymore…at times I still do…but yesterday I had rude awakening…who the hell cares!? It’s not like I’m dying or really unhealthy. I have to be gracious of what I have and have those thoughts and beliefs motivate me every minute. I also have to be grateful for the past experiences; I wouldn’t be who I am today without them. Even if it’s the fact that you’re still alive…be grateful.
Log Off / Create Time to Focus on “Me Time”.
Reasons to log off: Are you comparing yourself to others? Are you constantly paranoid, anxious, sad, mad when you’re going through your feeds? Are you spending too much time where you’re neglecting those who matter and the outside world?
With everything that’s going on in the world today, I have to give my mind a mental break before I have a mental breakdown.
Also, “Me Time”. I use to do it all wrong. I use to be on social media for hours just scrolling and scrolling, liking and commenting, getting into online arguments because I’m trying to prove a point…I did it ALL WRONG! I saw no growth at all. Me Time consists of doing something that focuses on the 6 components above and you may want to do it for at least one hour in your twenty-four hour day. Some examples are:
Physical – Exercise for 45 minutes a day / Have safe sex
Personal – Read A Interesting Book / Foster a New Skill
Emotional – Watch a Funny Movie / Make Amends with Someone
Spiritual – Listen to a Sermon / Meditate / Pray
Professional – Take All Vacation and Sick Days – Go Thrift Shopping for New Work Clothes (I’m sorry, but this is so hard for me, I spend hours trying to find some good cheap stuff…but it’s rewarding when I do!)
Psychological – Join a Support Group – Get some Sun
You are not obligated to publicize what you do, when you do it, how you do it. If you’re doing such, you are not honestly practicing self care. The purpose is to be a better and healthier you and be aware of who you are.
Spread the Word…